adopting from another country when our kids in the USA have no homes,how do you feel about that?

Question by Asking: adopting from another country when our kids in the USA have no homes,how do you feel about that?
i feel like its not right. we have so many homeless children here in the US that need homes.and what do we do,go to other countries and adopt those kids…i feel its not right.its sad really. shame on Americans for this action. please give your thoughts and be grown up….these are my feelings.everyone has a right to have one.

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Answer by pretty_in_pain07
I agree with you. I don’t think it’s right at all because there are so many people here that need our help and we keep helping people from other places.

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18 thoughts on “adopting from another country when our kids in the USA have no homes,how do you feel about that?”

  1. I totally agree.
    Its because people want little babies, and toddlers (under 2), so they will not even look at a 4 year old in their own country.
    There are so many kids, that need great homes right here (Im in Canada, but its the same).

    Personally me…I would always look into LOCAL foster adoptions, so that I can help a child in need of finding a family. And so that I dont have to sit there, and learn like…Chinese in order to just communicate with my kid for the first 2 years lol

  2. There’s a question that was very similar to this one that was just asked so I won’t give you a long drawn-out answer…but the bottom line is that every life is important. I totally get the message you are trying to send but can’t it be argued that the children in Haiti, etc…and other poverty-stricken countries are going to have FEWER opportunities to live than those homeless children in the United States?

    The bottom line is that children need help…homeless children need homes. Whether its from Florida or Haiti, you are still giving one child a chance to live and that child now has a family that it may have not had before. I understand people’s skepticism about adopting internationally and interracially but it only becomes an issue if the family makes it an issue.

    The entire world doesn’t revolve around our own country. Children need help everywhere, and many need help at more of a desperate rate than here in the United States.

  3. I’m always surprised that people aren’t called racist or white-supremist or American-supremist for saying that. Why are the children in American foster care more worthy of homes than children in an orphanage in Ethiopia? Why do they have more right to be adopted? Why are the Ethiopians less entitled to an American family?

    It depends on why people do it. If it’s because a little china doll or a black baby are cuter than plain old white kids, then thats not right. If it’s shopping for an exotic accessory….
    If people have valid reasons for adopting from a different country then good luck to them.
    Some people only adopt in the first place because they see children in horrific conditions abroad, and they want to take a child out of that, and give him/her a good home. Foster children in America are not usually in such awful conditions, and most people don’t know how common abuse and neglect are in the Foster System. They think foster kids are provided with all the essentials including kindness and care.

  4. All children if foster care are not available for adoption- but you are correct they do need good homes. Good homes until their parents get back on their feet, or get their parental rights terminated. This can take years and some people just don’t want to fall in love with kids and have to give them up- even if it’s in the best interest of the child. In a perfect world all children would be looked after by people who love them but, well, people are not perfect so IA will always exist.

  5. Hi Asking,

    I hear what you’re saying & that’s correct. There are half a million children right here in the U.S. foster care system, of which about 130,000 are legally available for adoption right now. They are constantly being overlooked by Americans for what they perceive as more desirable children in foreign countries.

    A point I’d like to make is that yes, every child around the world does deserve food, care & love. However, that need not require they be adopted by Americans! Children deserve to receive all that WITHOUT having to sustain additional losses in order to receive what every child deserves by their birthright. By additional losses I mean such as having to be displaced to the other side of the world, having to forfeit native foods, language & religion. Additional losses such as their name, their ethnicity, their medical history, and every single member of their extended families, everything familiar to them that they have ever known. Additional losses such as the right to ever legally gain back their lost heritage. That is asking far too much of any child to lose. In humanitarian work or charity, the goal should always be to provide assistance & encouragement to entire communities so they become strong enough to nurture & support their own families independently. Instead we are making entire cultures dependent on a system that requires them to continue losing more & more of their children with no end in sight to that. It is wrong for us to think that the American culture is the only right one or that is somehow so much better than everyone else’s that we must relocate every child here when we cannot / will not even adequately care for the children here who need homes.

    Here’s an analogy – If there were a leak in a dam, would it make more sense to keep using bigger buckets to catch the water leaking out OR to try to get to the root of the problem & fix that to stop the damage? Would your decision be influenced if there were rich people on the other side of the world who wanted to buy what was being lost even though they had plenty of their own there? Americans are poking bigger & bigger holes so that they can carry away more of what is being lost, all the time patting themselves on the back for “helping”. They insist the leaks cannot be fixed so they resist any attempts by others to provide real solutions because it’s just not in their own personal interests.

    Another poster mentioned every child “deserves American adoption”. I disagree because every child has a right to his/her own family & culture wherever they may be first. Adoption is not synonymous with helping; adoption is the legal process that changes one’s identity before others will take care of them. Doing that is not necessary in order to provide what help is needed for children. What every child really deserves is to be loved & cared for by their own family whenever possible. When that’s not possible, then the next best thing is within their extended family or their own community or country. Adoption should always be a last resort! What is NOT necessary is legally & permanently changing their identity (via altered birth certificate) in order to help them. That meets someone else’s desire to own a child, not a true need of the child’s.

    There are children almost everywhere who need homes. The ones in the U.S. should be cared for by Americans because that’s what’s best for the children. It’s senseless for American adults to wait for years & years on a waiting list, plus pay tens of thousands of dollars just to have a child from another country up-rooted from their homeland and forced to conform to a culture foreign to them. Especially when there are already children here who could be helped for free with minimal waiting time to qualified homes. This really spotlights the fact adoption in practice is not really about helping children so much as it is about adults getting something they want that they think is better than what they can get here. It is sad. Thanks for asking this question.

    julie j
    reunited adult adoptee

  6. weightwatcherx3 We used CCAI out of CO. Chinese Children Adoption International. We were very happy with them! We had to use a local agency for our homestudy,´╗┐ but used CCAI as our placement agency. Luke has done amazingly well. Preschool conference today, teacher said that he is actually advanced academically for an American child! He is very social as well. From start to finish it took only 12 months to adopt him, as a special needs child. He is missing a hand, but doesn’t miss it at all!

  7. wow… amazing!!! We adopted a boy in Guangzhou 2011 and could never be happier!…. We are so Happy for you too….. The love you show is AMAZING… and will definitely help him´╗┐ grow !!!!!!!!

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