How are AP’s who adopt internationally different from AP’s from the baby scoop era?
Question by Mommy times 2!: How are AP’s who adopt internationally different from AP’s from the baby scoop era?
It just occurred to me that both sets of AP’s are benefitting from a social system that attempts to control women’s fertility (by telling them they’re not good enough to be a mom, or can’t be a mom, or not having any assistance for women who need it, or medical care, etc.). That sounds strangely similar to the BSE to me.
On a side note, how exactly did the BSE end? Was it adoptees speaking out about being shoved off onto different families because of this social mess? Was it lack of PAP’s? I’m just curious.
Kazi, I honestly mean no disrespect when I say this, but it sounds like you’re making excuses. Firstly, I did not make any judgments about AP’s either from the BSE or now; I believe that the social climate of the times leads many AP’s to believe that they are doing the best thing they can. And I do believe that is true for you – so, no need for excuses. But, let’s be honest, you are still benefitting from a social system that attempts to control women’s fertility. The social climate in China IS one that tells women that they’re not good enough to be a mom (unless they’re a certain age, or to more than one child, unless they’ve got lots of money); the social climate in China IS one that refuses assistance to those who need it, and it DOES refuse medical care, at times, to women who need to give birth (via a system of shaming them into believing they can’t get medical care if they are pregnant without a permit). (continued…)
It actually DOES have a lot to do with poverty, because marriage and birth permits cost a lot of money. If you don’t have a marriage permit (and aren’t married), you can’t apply for a birth permit. I do understand why the one-child policy is in effect – but I DON’T agree that this was the best solution. Do you? If it’s creating all this corruption, human trafficking, coercion of women who wouldn’t otherwise give up their babies, greed in other countries from people who believe they have the right to these kids (not YOU, but there have been some truly sad folks coming in here acting like they’ve got the right to just traipse on over to any ol’ country and bring home a live one). I understand what you are saying about infanticide, birth control, and abortion, and I agree. But that has nothing to do with AP’s now or in the BSE. (continued…)
I do think the social climate between the USA and China is one that coerces women into believing that people (who don’t have kids, who want a girl, who live overseas, who have more money, etc.) are more deserving of their babies than they are. So, my question still stands. It still sounds awfully similar to me. Oh, and please don’t tell me what I can and cannot imagine. You know nothing about me or what I’ve experienced in my life. I believe it was you who said that people who criticize international adoption couldn’t last 5 minutes in one of those orphanages. Well, you couldn’t last five minutes in my childhood, I guarantee it. I did survive it. I’d still rather be right here in my own country raised by my own messed up parents.
Answer by skatc
I thought the big adoption boom ended in the US partially because there were more resources and social support for single moms and low-income families, but mainly because abortion was legalized (Roe vs Wade was 1973) and became an option for many women.
I think we’ll be seeing less adoptions from other countries as women there are given more resources and support to either raise children or terminate pregnancies. I think it’s sad that in a perfect social system there will be no unwanted children, but there will still be people who want children but are unable to conceive them.
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