Q&A: Under what circumstances do you agree with adoption?
Question by .: Under what circumstances do you agree with adoption?
I understand how much coersion there is in the adoption “business” (for lack of a better term), and I have three adopted siblings myself, who were all adopted under extreme circumstances.
The oldest of the bunch, Dylan (indeed a girl) is now 13 and came to us when she was 7. She’d been so horrifically abused by her drunk father and heroin-addicted mother that she was terrified to go near any adults. She’d been put into the foster system and as my dad and step mother had experience with “troubled” kids, they were asked to take her in.
They did and worked hard for two long years to gain her trust. Once they had, she insisted on staying with them, as they were the only adults she felt comfortable around. The adoption papers went through and she became my sister when she was 10. Since then, she’s come leaps and bounds, more so than any of us could have hoped for.
The younger two, twins- now 7 years old- have been with us since their birth. Their mother was also a drug addict who continued to take throughout her pregnancy and also has two older children who were taken away from her. Again, my parents were contacted in the hope they’d foster them. Of course, they agreed and to cut a long story short, they just couldn’t bear to give them up, so they also became my brother and sister.
I’ve noticed that people seem to be so hypocritical to the situation. With Dylan, they think it’s fine and dandy because she was older when we took her in, yet with the twins, it’s wrong, because we’ve had them since birth. So what- we should have left them with their mother who could have done God knows what?
So, what are your opinions? Thanks, in advance!
7rin: We haven’t erased their previous lives. Dylan still sees her older brother when possible (he’s in the Armed Forces and left before the abuse started) but doesn’t want to see her biological mother and father ever again. We ask all the time to make sure, but she’s not changed her mind.
In the case of the twins, with them still being so young, my dad and stepmum had to think for them. They gave the bio mum the chance to see her twins before they were adopted. They told her if she worked to get off the drugs and sort her life out, then she would could be a real mother, but she refused. My dad even offered to pay for her to go through rehab but she still refused. She loved her drugs more than her children, so she has no right to be anywhere near them.
commercials… : Yes, the twins were born addicts.
Answer by Allie
I find it very hard to belive that people would have a problem with it. I think that your parents are wonderful people for dedicating their lives to children in need. Not only have they provided a home for children who needed one they have taken children with a bad history which is not easy. I currently babysit for a family who have adopted 3 grossly disabled children, they could have addopted “normal” children but knew that these other children would find it harder to if at all find familes. I think its wonderful that people put up their hand to look after and even adopt these children. And I dont think people understand its not something you just decided overnight, they are your children like any biological children and you dont stop being family when they turn 18 and move out of home.
So anyone who saids any different is a dickhead. Its not something that everybody can do so when people can I think its just wonderful no matter what age they are when you adopt them. So keep smiling and enjoy your new siblings!
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