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If your a teen mom, will you lose your child?

Question by Leo Maniac: If your a teen mom, will you lose your child?
If you have a child as a teen in America, will CPS be more involved? What if you have a history of mental illness? I have munchausen syndrome and when I was in 7th grade, faked having bipolar disorder, depression and suicidal thoughts. I do NOT have bipolar disorder, depression or suicidal thoughts and I never did have them, but its on my medical record because I faked them successfully. Although I have munchausen syndrome, I am 100% dedicated to keeping my child SAFE. I WILL NOT harm my child or take them to the emergency room pretending they are sick. I want to TAKE CARE of my child, and that is why I want to seek psychological therapy to help me, and learn how to take care of my child, and I would also have someone keeping an eye on me, which would provide even more support and protection to my child. I am already afraid though that just being a mom so young is going to get my child taken away, but I am even more afraid that getting help, (thinking I am doing the RESPONSIBLE and MATURE thing) is going to be an immediate sentence for my child to foster care. I have no doubt that I will be able to take care of, protect and provide for my child, but I want to get help for myself too.

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Answer by JJWJ
from a former male schoolteacher …

Hope you get helpful answers from females, too.

Let me just mention something that many girls your age do in a situation like this. I encourage you to talk to several girls you know about this alternate action as, in the future, it can be much better for you and for the child you are carrying.

About one in every six married couples goes childless and this is not a choice they are making. Many of those couples go to an office and sign sheets wanting to adopt a baby. For every ten of these couples, there are three girls who are pregnant for whom now is not the time to have a child to raise. (Many of those couples end up flying to Japan or France to find a child to adopt.)

Those other girls in the first paragraph will say: “If I was unable to have children, then I would want another woman to let me adopt one of her children. Women need to help one another. And by finishing school and becoming married, I will be able to be a better mother to my future children.”

Contact a local hospital or a person who could assist you in finding a good office to visit regarding this issue.

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Image by Schlesinger Library, RIAS, Harvard University
Biography: Margaret Cardozo Holmes has contributed her artistic talent and scientific curiosity to the development of Cardozo Sisters Hairstylists, founded by her sister, Elizabeth Cardozo Barker, in 1928. She first learned about working with hair as a child in her grandmother’s prosperous beauty shop in Atlantic City and was influenced by her aunt, the noted sculptress, Meta Warrick Fuller, who wished to adopt her and train her as an artist. In becoming a hair stylist she found an outlet for her talents. With her knowledge of the chemistry of hair, she has helped manufacturers develop new products for relaxing hair. She worked with her sisters to make Cardozo Sisters one of the most successful beauty shops in Washington, D.C., known for its ability to care for and style all types of hair. Her high standards for the employees raised the shop to a professional level unusual for the industry in the 1930s. In charge of personnel for the shop, she offered rehabilitation, training, and jobs for Black women who could not take full-time jobs. Mrs. Holmes is married to Eugene Clay Holmes, who was a professor of philosophy at Howard University.

Description: The Black Women Oral History Project interviewed 72 African American women between 1976 and 1981. With support from the Schlesinger Library, the project recorded a cross section of women who had made significant contributions to American society during the first half of the 20th century. Photograph taken by Judith Sedwick

Repository: Schlesinger Library on the History of Women in America.

Collection: Black Women Oral History Project

Research Guide: guides.library.harvard.edu/schlesinger_bwohp

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Why is it so difficult to adopt a child?

Question by Thedreamer: Why is it so difficult to adopt a child?
I understand that there needs to be rules and regulations to make sure that children are going into safe and ready homes with people that will love them and care for them, but it just seems like the process is just way too much. My husband and I would love to adopt children. We can have children of our own, and we do, we have a daughter, but our hearts break when we hear about abandoned infants and children. We have so much love, time and energy to give and we have the room. It’s so sad to see all the restrictions on adopting. It’s not like we’re rich but I don’t think we could ever afford to spend such huge amounts of money to adopt. It’s sad, it really is. There are so many good families that would be happy to take children in, but the bureaucracy gets in the way.

Why is it like this? Why can’t this be a simplified process so that children can be taken in by families who could care for them?

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Answer by Urmo Vaher
You have a child and you want to adopt another one. Trust me you kid is going to hate you for the rest of her life if you adopt another kid

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Q&A: Do you think that IA adoptions are contributing to child trafficking or is there really not much….?

Question by Independ”ant”: Do you think that IA adoptions are contributing to child trafficking or is there really not much….?
of a difference between the two?
Do these questions asked by “child buyer” sound any different than yours and do you think if the forged “adoption paperwork” was easy as pie for them, wouldn’t it be conceivable that it was done for yours?

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Answer by Heather B
Yes of course it is. The law of supply and demand causes the unethical practises rampant in IA today.

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When Adopting a Child in Vietnam, What Requirements Does the Adopted Parent Need to Bring Her to the US?

Question by fogcityt: When Adopting a Child in Vietnam, What Requirements Does the Adopted Parent Need to Bring Her to the US?
My sister is currently in Vietnam for the second time volunteering at an orphanage. She is interested in adopting a Vietnamese girl. Although she has started the adoption process back in the Massachusetts, she was surprised to be told today that the 6 year old girl she met on her first trip is now available for her to adopt. What legal papers and requirements does she need to legally adopt this child? It seems that there is a fair amount of corruption so she wants to be sure she does everything properly and legally. What kind of Visa will she need for the girl? What kind of document would she need from the parents or family? Any info is greatly appreciated. Thanks! A Very Excited Future Aunt

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Answer by spydermomma
That is great that your sister has been volunteering at an orphanage. I’m guessing that means she speaks some Vietnamese and will want to keep her future adopted child connected with the Vietnamese (and Vietnamese American) culture. That will really be a great help to your future niece!

As to the requirements, here is a link that details them:

Here are the basics:
–Assuming your sister is single, she will need to be 25 years old (or almost) to apply to bring an adopted child to the USA. And she will have to be a US citizen. If your sister is married, there is no specific age requirement, and only one of the couple has to be a US citizen (the other has to be at least a lawful permanent resident).

–The child will have to be considered an orphan under US immigration law:
“Under U.S. immigration law, a foreign-born child is an orphan if he or she does not have any parents because of the death or disappearance of, abandonment or desertion by, or separation or loss from, both parents. A foreign-born child is also an orphan if his or her sole or surviving parent is incapable of providing care of the child and has, in writing, irrevocably released the child for emigration and adoption.”

Assuming both of the above are true, there are 2 ways to do it:
Way 1–Preapproval of the parent(s) to adopt
(it sounds as if your sister is perhaps already started on this process back in Massachusetts):
–Your sister willl probably want to file USCIS Form I-600A (Application for Advance Processing of Orphan Petition) to make sure that she meets all requirements for adopting. http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=abde5f56ff55d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD
This involves a homestudy, which will make sure your sister will be able to provide a good home for an adopted child. The homestudy involves interviews, a visit to her home, background checks, health checkup, etc. Your sister will have to be in the US for at least a month to get all this done, and probably several months.
–After the I-600A has been approved, assuming the child can be classified as an orphan, your sister can file form I-600 (Petition to Classify Orphan as an Immediate Relative) (why they give them almost the same number I don’t know, seems confusing to me!)
–After that is approved, your sister can adopt the child in Vietnam and bring her to the US.

Way 2–adopting a specific child
–It is possible your sister might want to skip the I-600A and go straight to the I-600. The risk of this is that her homestudy might not be approved. Also, if she went about it this way and this particular girl turned out not to be legally orphaned or otherwise to be unavailable, I’m not sure if the papers would still be partly valid or if perhaps your sister would have to start all over again. Here is the link for this other process:

Regarding Vietnam in particular, here is the US State Department’s very detailed statement on adopting from Vietnam. It covers the process, history of adoption from Vietnam, the types of documentation required, problems your sister might run into, etc.:
In particular, note this part of the statement with regards to fraud:
“A FEW WORDS ON VIETNAMESE CIVIL DOCUMENTATION: Document fraud is widespread in Vietnam. Fraud is not limited to fake documents produced by other than the authorized civil authority. A document may be legal, in the sense that the appropriate Vietnamese government office has issued it and it is in the correct format, but still be fraudulent because it contains false information. Vietnamese regulations regarding civil documentation are frequently not followed. For instance, births are supposed to be registered within 30 days and in a prescribed format, but late registrations and non-standard, unofficial “birth certificates” created by orphanages are common. Death certificates, such as for a child’s biological parent(s), may prove even more difficult to verify, since there is no standard format and the cause of death listed on Vietnamese death certificates is often very vague. Moreover, the format of all official documents, with the exception of birth certificates, varies widely from province to province. All of these factors can greatly complicate the ability of Vietnamese and U.S. officials involved in the intercountry adoption process to identify the child and confirm his/her parentage to a sufficient level of comfort to protect against child-buying or other inappropriate, illegal or prohibited practices.”

Regarding corruption and possible pitfalls, check out this blog. Apparently some visas are being denied because the US government are not convinced the children are truly orphans. Babies have in some cases been bought and sold, or possibly stolen from their natural parents. And even when this is not the case, documents have been forged to make it appear that a paper trail is “clean” when it actually is not:

Also check out this entry on Vietnam from an excellent blog on corruption in international adoption:

And then perhaps this general overview on adopting from Vietnam

Good luck to your sister in this. The process is not without issues, and you are right to be concerned about corruption. But adopting an older child who really needs a family and who has already come to trust her, and keeping the child in touch with her native culture–well that is a wonderful thing–making the best of a bad situation for the child.

And good luck to you as an auntie also. I’m a new auntie myself and just got back from meeting my niece, and I’m excited also!

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